For the last few months I’ve been asking myself why Colombian girlfriends go so out of the way for their men. They cook for them, do their laundry, clean up after them, bring them whatever they want, et cetera, without the boyfriend even asking for any of it. If you know me, you know why I’m perplexed by all this. And why I’m better off having an American or European boyfriend.
I think what happens is that sons are so spoiled by their mothers, who cook for them, do their laundry, clean up after them and bring them whatever they want, that the girlfriend actually has to compete with the guy’s mother and convince him that she’ll take even better care of him that his mama. I mean, when you think about it, a guy with a mom and two doting sister has no reason to leave home; he has everything he wants at the drop of a dime. Plus, a girlfriend on the side who’ll do anything for him.
I’m not saying all guys are this way. There are a lot of independent, do-it-yourself kind of guys, but I think that in general, there’s definitely a stronger codependency between mothers and sons here. I am seeing this guy (not serious, don’t get excited) who lives with his mom and two sisters and told me his mom gets jealous if he doesn’t come home for dinner or spends too much time with his friends or girlfriend. He told me that his mom would love for him to be a mujeriego (womanizer) so that he’d never get married and live at home forever. So I almost feel like moms and girlfriends see each other as the enemy, and both do their best to win that precious prize, who is often spoiled, dependant, underemployed, but somehow, inexplicably, devilishly charming. They may not have jobs, they may not have their own place and they may not even have much ambition, but when it comes to gallantry, Colombian men know what they’re doing. And this is what makes them so endearing to the women in their lives, I suppose.
Again, only a generalization from my personal experiences.