I’ve been on this dating website for about a month now, so I figured it’s about time for another update.
This past weekend I had several dates that required me to drive into D.C (not exactly my forte) and resulted in me losing my car after the second date (I really need to start using that Find my Car app I downloaded on my phone) but otherwise I had a great time. I’ve been surprised by how much fun I’ve had with this whole process. Date awkwardness was my biggest fear when I started online dating but I’ve managed to go out with pretty talkative guys so far. Which is great because I’m a shy, introverted person and meeting up with someone I’ve only “met” through email is, quite frankly, terrifying. My second fear was that guys would be disappointed when they saw me in real life. I like to think my profile pictures are relatively realistic and I feel pretty good about myself right now, but you never know. The last thing I’d want is to have to get through an entire lunch or dinner knowing the guy was expecting Zooey Deschanel level cuteness and sensing he feels I’ve delivered Rosie O’Donnell looks (sorry Rosie O’Donnell). Luckily, I haven’t had any horribly awkward dates where we’re both staring into space trying to think of something — anything — to say and if anyone has thought I looked like Rosie O’Donnell they’ve been pretty nice about it. I went out with this guy a few days ago who said one of his dates ended with a girl throwing a shoe at him, another with his date having a drunken meltdown and yet another featured a six-hour interrogation during which his date took notes, later e-mailing him to inform him she felt they were not compatible and should not see each other again. So really, I’ve been pretty lucky.
Anyway, I was reading this article on speed dating about how men and women act during these “blind date” scenarios and Dan McFarland, a sociologist at Stanford University, said, “We’ve all met somebody we thought looked amazing, and then they open their mouth and you realize, wow, that was different from I thought.” Most of the people I’ve met up with have been more or less exactly how I imagined them based on their e-mails, which has been a pleasant surprise. I didn’t really know what to expect when I started this endeavor, but when someone acts just like you expect them to act it’s kind of nice because you arrive prepared. But this past weekend I met up with a guy who looked exactly like his picture — but he was utterly different from what I imagined. His personality, the way he talked, his gestures — everything — was totally different from I would have expected based on his e-mails. After I got over my initial surprise, the date actually turned out to be fun and the conversation flowed easily…but it’s a little bit bizarre when you think you know what someone will be like… and then you meet them and realize that whatever vision you had in your mind was totally wrong. The best way I can really describe this experience is that you think you’re going to meet, let’s say, Colin Firth, but you get Brad Pitt instead. There’s nothing wrong with Brad Pitt, but it does takes a little adjusting.
But so far so good. I’ve met a couple of guys I’d like to see again and at the very least, I’m turning into a better conversationalist!
Categories: D.C Dating Scene