So when first started dating about a month ago, I admit I may have gone a little overboard and gotten a bit overly enthusiastic. So much fun to get dressed up, meet new people and have great (Ok, sometimes not so great) conversation! As I mentioned in a previous post, I’m relatively new to the world of D.C dating and while it’s been exciting, it’s also been quite exhausting. I’m a natural introvert so the whole going on dates thing takes a lot of effort. I feel like I constantly have to be “on” and am terrified of awkward silences, mostly because it takes me a while to open up and I feel like I’m still a shy person at my core. But so far, I haven’t had any horrible, cringe-worthy awkward dates. I think the key is to go out with guys who describe themselves as “outgoing” in their profile…that way, even if I can’t think of anything to say, they will.
Within the dating can be exhausting lesson, I’ve learned a few other mini lessons:
A.) If ever there’s an awkward pause in conversation, ask the person about his hobbies/job/career goals. Seems like most people enjoy talking about themselves.
B.) It’s probably best to avoid drinking even a glass of wine on a first date because this can make you believe a date is going better than it actually is. I had a glass of wine on a first date with this guy a few weeks ago and the date went great…but when we met up for a second (wineless) date it was just blah. He didn’t ask me any questions about myself and the only way to avoid complete awkwardness was to incorporate mini lesson A.
C.) Don’t bother going out with guys you really don’t think you’ll click with. I’ve tried being open-minded, but I’ve decided that über businessmen types just aren’t for me. And if someone’s initial message is less than five sentences, I automatically delete. I mean, I was an English major. I like words. The more the better. Hey Beautiful (+smiley face or winking face) just isn’t going to cut it.
Anyway, at first, I was initially going on what seemed like four or five dates a week, but this resulted in problems such as: 1.) Not remembering what I’d talked about with who, 2.) Frequently losing my car in D.C and 3.) Unhealthy eating habits (seems like everyone wants to eat out). But I’ve decided that from now on, I’m sticking to no more than two dates a week. This seems like a manageable number, right? I think I’ll continue my online dating experiment through the summer but then I’m quitting.
Categories: D.C Dating Scene